Venus-Pluto: All or Nothing

venus-pluto aspects

Venus-Pluto in aspect enjoys a committed partnership and the individual with this contact is not afraid to make the necessary changes that a relationship demands. Pluto symbolizes death and rebirth, elimination and transformation. The unconscious becomes conscious through profound purging and cathartic experiences. Hades planet, urges us to bring changes deep in consciousness, and thus transform life.

On a broader level, we often direct all of our focus on finding a relationship that we are left totally unprepared for being in a relationship. Our happiness (Venus) and feelings of self-worth and contentment is determined by our ability to have a positive inner relationship with ourselves. We cannot love another person if we have no self-love, and so working through Venusian problems is an important step on the road to having more fulfilling and happier relationships.

Venus-Pluto relationships need change and growth and will not remain stagnant forever. However, this shouldn’t be confused with the Jupiterian type of growth, and the expansive possibilities so characteristic of such a relationship. Pluto’s growth is focused on intensifying relationships (Venus) until the pressure builds and love is deepened or ended. Astrologer, Joyce Levine, says that Pluto rules the underworld, and as such represents the underworld within ourselves. The author also says that Pluto has the ability to pierce through situations and get to the bottom of what is going on.

Problems arise for Venus-Pluto when they don’t feel a powerful bond from a partner, and Pluto wants all or nothing….Jealousy and obsession is commonly related to Venus-Pluto aspects and the complete destruction of a relationship:

There are a lot of current opinions and definitions of Jealousy. From Cosmopolitan magazine to eradicate psychology books, jealousy is one of the most perplexing and ever-present of human emotions. Some people believe that jealousy is a natural accompany to life, the sour with the sweet. Others think it’s pathological, a sign of insecurity. Others believe it has something to do with older standards of morality. Still others believe it is morally wrong, and not part of the idealized state of self-abnegating love which says, “Whatever makes you happy makes me happy”. You won’t hear a Scorpio mouthing that sort of drivel. More likely he’ll tell you, ’Whatever makes you happy without me, you’ll pay for.’ By Liz Greene

Venus is focused on our values, ideals and models of relating, and when Pluto is involved it represents the inevitable loss of the things we love. Possessions are lost or broken, and people and relationships change, move on, or die. The loss of self-esteem, personal value and security with each significant loss is often overwhelming. The pile up of losses are the events that most tax (8th/Pluto) us as humans beings, taking its psychological toll after a while.

Pluto urges us to re-examine our values, and focus on the resourcefulness of a relationship and our ability to grow from pain. Difficult experiences in relationships can make us a stronger person, less naïve, and better able to handle crisis. It’s difficult to weigh up the losses vs. gains in such situations, but following crisis there is often a deeper appreciation of the relationships we do have.

I lost my father when I was 18 years old and one of the lessons Pluto taught me, was to take nothing for granted. I learned that what we love today, may not be here tomorrow. Loving and appreciating people right now, is imperative. All or nothing is Pluto’s territory, and no half-baked attempts at relationships will satisfy the lord of the underworld.