An individual with Venus conjunct, square or opposite Saturn is cautious in love and with their affections. In the extreme, it can be in the area of relationships where they feel inhibited, scared and shy. The individual may choose a partner, who has these kinds of qualities and it may be frustrating trying to get a spontaneous show of feeling. Venus in aspect to Saturn may also complain that a partner is outwardly selfish or cold and non-demonstrative.
In relationships, they have a serious approach so it can be hard for a simple flirtation with the opposite sex, and the fear of rejection throws up a wall of self-defense. It can also be difficult for others to know if they are interested because their affections are cool at first and need more time to warm up. The awkwardness in love, may be a barrier that prevents others from getting too close. The individual often holds the belief that they are unlovable and it sometimes has its roots in childhood, where the youngster felt they were denied affection, and were born with the feeling of being un-deserving.
Often Venus-Saturn, chooses security in love, but also “safety” so a partner may not be socially, intellectually, or physically up to their level. It is rooted in feelings of inadequacy, and through experiences of fear. The aspect is labelled with the love vs duty tag, and there may be an element of sacrifice involved and the choice of security over love may predominate. The individual endures a relationship, and there is always a feeling of being chained to it through obligation.
The person could be in a relationship where they feel unfairly criticized, and let down frequently. The partnership may simply lack the love and passion they crave, and could feel a bit dull, like a penny that has lost its shine. They also have a fear of letting others down, and of being a disappointment to lovers and it creates this weight of anxiety around the matter of love, romance and marriage. The individual should be wary of parent-child relationships, and it can be the case of one solely carrying the bulk of the partnership on one’s shoulders, especially when providing for a jobless partner, or a person who is sick or a burden in some other way. In a lot of circumstances, those with Saturn attached to Venus have an overdeveloped sense of loyalty, responsibility and concern to stay with a partner.
It may be that Saturnian qualities need to be developed, relationships must be taken seriously and the individual will have to learn how to cope with the heavy stuff involved in making a partnership work. All of this could mean facing adversity, hardship, and even illness. It usually means they are made aware of their commitments and what they should be doing. Self-abandon, free-reign and carelessness in love is something that often feels forced, but once they let the spirit of joy, enter into the bond they will feel a lighter sense of expression in love. In relationships, they can feel dissatisfied at times, and often feel they do twice as much for others compared to what they get back in return.
|Venus-Saturn needs guarantees in love|
Venus-Saturn people are often overly concerned with guarantees, proof and shows of real affection. The other half may need to constantly prove their love, especially in tangible ways. They are easily hurt and get frightened, and they may not feel they get what they deserve financially, in love or in general happiness. The individual feels blocked from achieving their desires, but it is the more self-aware individual that has learned how to be self-disciplined, and work those limitations to their advantage. They say good things come to those who wait and it really is in the second half of life, where these people see the fruits of their labours and lessons of time and value have been truly learnt.
Venus in aspect to Saturn is often attracted to those in authority, someone older, and people that represent security and status. They need others to admire, respect and learn lessons of worth, self-value, and how to face their deep insecurity. A lot of this revolving around their fears and doubts about giving and receiving love in the process. They may be a pessimist when it comes to romance, and will have to learn to trust others, allowing more pleasure, fun and enjoyment into their personal life. A crippling feeling of guilt is often felt when they let go and enjoy themselves, or buy something expensive as if they really don’t deserve it.
The Venus-Saturn aspect has been linked to prostitution, poverty, and widowhood, but mostly it tends to represent many emotional frustrations, especially during the early years. Astrologer, Sue Tompkins, links the aspect in with jumble sales and they can be great money savers. When a Venus-Saturn contact makes a commitment, not from duty, but from the heart, then as a life partner, they are willing to stay for the long haul through thick and thin..
Venus-Saturn learns over time the real value and worth of the things they love and are practical about their love life. The marriage can be tested at various points with what appear to be obstacles and a nagging feeling of loneliness and weighty responsibilities. The individual can express great care, loyalty and depth, and value both time and the practical side of romance.