Astrology and Synastry: The Rock

rock coupleThe picture depicts a long-lasting marriage, which begs the question: what is the astrological glue that keeps a couple together? Could it be shared responsibilities, property, and children? In such cases, we typically look to Saturn. It is usually beneficial to have a strong relationship between Saturn and the personal planets and the angles across the synastry chart, as Saturn is a symbol of time, stability, and loyalty. When you’re in a committed partnership, you try to find common ground and make adjustments so that you’re both happy. Saturn’s only flaw in synastry is that, coupled with an encouraging committed side and perseverance through hardships, it may occasionally dampen relationships or weigh it down by responsibility.

Even if your synastry chart shows more challenging connections than the flowery ones that astrologers sometimes gush about—you know the ones, Sun/Venus in harmony, Moon/Venus in harmony, etc.—love may be a powerful factor in why the relationship has lasted this long and endured so much. Tough aspects may not be ideal, but hey, sometimes a little cosmic challenge can make the love even stronger. Sure, it’s nice when the stars align and the Sun and Venus are in perfect harmony, but sometimes it’s the tough aspects that make for a more enduring bond.

Carl Jung, a fan of the Sun-Moon synsatry link, observed many married couples with this aspect, and it’s generally regarded as a positive one. Some people think that if the Moons are out of rhythm with each other, they will never be able to feel at home with each other since their emotional responses will be completely out of sync. Finding an emotional connection and a relationship that gives you a sense of belonging, a feeling of home, or a deep sense of understanding—all of which are ruled by the Moon—can be the pull to each other, and that familiarity could lead to a long-term and emotionally satisfying deep connection. The typical Venus/Mars ties may also be apparent for the developing relationship; Venus in progression is frequently an indicator of a love affair, as it screams love and sex, instant attraction, and a very passionate partnership.

Sometimes, when the outer planets are in transit to a woman’s Sun (guys in her life), it’s a sign of a new man coming into her life for the long haul; other times, it’s a temporary link to gain an experience of learning from one another and ends with the transit. If, for instance, Pluto is transiting or making an aspect to the Sun, a relationship entering your life at this time could be described as passionate, full of power conflicts, jealousy, and attempts to dominate one another. Similarly, the 5th and 7th houses are both favourable for discovering romance if a progression or transit enters that domain, thus one should be prepared for love to possibly happen.

When the outer planets are in transit to a woman’s Sun, it’s like the universe is playing matchmaker. Sometimes it’s a set up for a long-term relationship, other times it’s just a cosmic fling for some mutual personal growth.

We all have mental pictures of the perfect partner in our heads and a strong attraction to the kind of people who we believe to be the embodiment of those archetypal figures from the planets. After all, we don’t normally let our rational minds make these kinds of decisions. As part of our personal development, and because of this mysterious emotion we call love, we often opt for the challenging over the safe.

Fine, then I’m not sorry either. I’m not sorry that I met you. I’m not sorry that knowing you has made me question everything, that in death you’re the one that made me feel most alive. You’ve been a terrible person, you’ve made all the wrong choices, and of all the choices that I’ve made this will prove to be the worst one. But I am not sorry that I’m in love with you. I love you…Vampire Dairies