A couple with Sun square Venus in synastry can find a powerful attraction to one another, and there is lots of passion and liking, a radiating of warmth and affection. In interpretation, the aspect receives some harsh reviews, mainly because this is the square contact and it is believed there is something vain about the partnership. Some vanity that cares more about superficial relating than real sympathy with one another. However, others call it an intensely romantic attraction. All colorful interpretations aside, on a human level, it’s basically calling attention to a difficulty between self-identity and valuing one another for your different wants and tastes in life. It is really about accepting some differences that could create disharmony and dispute. By not totally accepting the feeling values of the other, or not feeling validated as a separate individual, there can be a clash. It indicates one partner’s goals, life purpose, and personality sometimes clashing with the other’s values, and what they find attractive and desirable.
The basic identity of one individual doesn’t feel the loving response from the ”love goddess” and those ideals of what they truly desire. The natural sense of authentic expression by one person feels unappreciated, but it must also be kept in mind this is only one aspect of the relationship. All depends on how positively this is acting. In another sense, there can be strong affection and an appreciation of the other’s attractiveness. The affection of one person can really enhance the confidence of the other as long as romantic idealizing isn’t taken to the extreme. It is one of the combinations astrologers warn about being excessively sweet and being seduced into over-indulgence of affectionate responses, physically and emotionally. It calls for something healthier in the love department, something more balanced.
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Venus symbolizes our capacity for whatever we define as pleasurable, attractive and worthy. Venus represents how we maintain harmony and in a man’s chart shows his ideal womanhood on an emotional, physical or spiritual level. In a woman’s chart, it represents her basic femaleness and how she plays her feminine role. The Sun rules an individual’s basic aims in life and the concept of manhood, it is a masculine energy in the horoscope regardless of who is the Sun in this interaction. There is somewhat the ego and the flirt at play, and one may block the other of the desired response.
Everything comes down to the basic values and identity, two highly important issues in any relationship. Perhaps there is some over-affection a flattering of the ego. The contact is not meant to be major adverse for a synastry connection, it just represents some level of disharmony with goals in life and ethics with wounded pride and hurt feelings. Worked out positively, and with effort, the couple realizes that even though there is a fundamental difference between aspirations and desires there is a lot of love and affection and they can learn to not take it so personally. The Sun in warm and glorious and Venus is desirable and attractive and if they treat each other differently from what they hope to receive it can evolve into the beau and the flatterer and this combo can be filled with personality and charm inner and outer beauty and a striving for harmony.
Even if the personality and style are somewhat out of sync there is much to be gained. Show each other things that make you both special and beautiful and wonderful things can happen in the relationship; it can truly blossom into something worthwhile. The sign compatibility is always worth analysing, more so with personal planetary aspects, sometimes a personality is bold, brash and outgoing and the other values are timider, sensitive and emotional (Aries and Cancer) or someone is more rational and objective, scientific while the other values the esoteric, deep mysteries and unseen (Aquarius and Scorpio). It usually involves these kinds of clashes in the partnership. Wisdom teaches us that loving someone deeply for who they are gives strength, self-worth and courage in life.
“You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She’s not perfect—you aren’t either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break—her heart. So don’t hurt her, don’t change her, don’t analyze and don’t expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she’s not there.” ― Bob Marley