Any person with Venus in CANCER seeks relationships which provide a sense of emotional belonging, kindness, and sympathy. The expression of love is insanely responsive to feeling, and there is a powerful protective instinct that will sometimes cling fearfully to loved ones. They have a tendency to nostalgically look back at the past, remembering past loves and relationships. Cancers have strong emotional attachments and are gentle, romantic, affectionate, and devoted. However, they can also be possessive and clingy, which can result in a reluctance to allow others emotional freedom. Venus here may seem touchy and sensitive in matters of the heart, so extreme sensitivity to rejection and a long memory for personal slights create a defensive shell in romantic pursuits. Often the individual needs to feel intensely and places deep importance on close and lasting bonds.
Those with Venus in Cancer attract with tenderness and familiarity which makes others feel comfortable. Often this combination has an extremely caring and compassionate nature that protects nurtures and knows how to sympathetically respond to partners. In love, Venus in Cancer is full of longings, imagination, impressions, and loving devotion. Sometimes the love nature is prone to unhealthy dependency and neediness, but it only reflects their deep vulnerability and needs to be close to people. If they feel unloved and insecure these types are prone to sulking and moodiness to attract emotional nurturance and reassurance from a relationship.
Classically, if they are attracted to someone, they always take the sideways approach and need to feel secure that feelings will be reciprocated. They are super protective of their heart, realizing this softness and instinctively feel they must keep it safe. It can make them wary and watchful about anyone who might try and hurt this quite defenseless love underneath their guarded nature. Some of these people have childhood sweethearts and tend to reflect on past relationships. The nature may be quite shy, timid, and passive. The type is forever looking for emotional security and has a desire to be nurtured.
Venus in Cancer has an emotional expectation that lovers should instinctively know what they need without having to verbalize it. Venus here is vulnerable and cautious in love, and they are not one to rush into romance. Sensitivity is a strength, but it always needs guarding, since they suffer massively when hurt. Being tuned into what’s unspoken, they can be fearful by the psychic turbulence of others. Cancer needs time to get to know someone and develop a sense of reliance. It’s easy for them to take offense, and the slightest hint of rejection makes them retreat into their shell. Choosing the right kind of partner makes them feel safe and secure.
There is something traditional about the love nature with Venus in Cancer, and they enjoy cozy, private, and intimate dates. Similarly, they may be a bit old-fashioned romantically and prefer to play the traditional role in a relationship. Deeply sensitive to the needs and hurts of loved ones, they create a protective love nest and seek stable and domestic situations filled with comfort and beauty.
Venus in Cancer potentially implies a great depth of feeling and sensitivity to the feelings of others. It also needs closeness and intimacy, and cannot bear detachment and distance. By Liz Greene: The Development of the Personality.