Neptune in Relationships: Song Choice
A Neptune relationship is emotionally rich and complex; the experience of meeting a soul-mate to enhance, deepen our lives and fulfill all of our needs is given major importance. Although there can be hazy interpretations when trying to define a soul-mate. The consensus view is that it often describes two people instantly familiar with one another as if they were created as one. Neptune seeks to merge with others at a deep level, and separation is unbearable.
A Neptune connection can be powerfully moving, even if it is sometimes filled with suffering. Such relationships are often based on a shared artistic or spiritual commitment, and it often comes together through sacrifice, shared guilt, and some sense of emotional need. Astrologer Liz Greene says a composite Neptune in relationships may reflect a ‘fantasy’ love between a film or pop star or adoring fan who one can never hope to meet in reality.
Neptune in a relationship can create, inspire, enchant, but it can also blind, hypnotise, and cause addiction. While under the spell of Neptune it becomes nearly impossible to gain perspective and realize what is happening. Neptune in synastry also creates this kind of a tie between two natal charts, and it creates high idealisation, inspired love, but this can sometimes lead to bitter disappointment. Neptune in a bond may need to play the redeemer and “save” the partner from his or her emotional problems. This is a relationship filled with illusory expectations of rescuing a partner. Neptune is also a highly compassionate planet and feels another’s pain as if were their own. And an individual often believes that with enough love, sympathy and understanding they can save an individual from his/her terrible childhood, addiction, and misfortune in life. A Neptune partnership can be intoxicating, heady and filled with seductive manipulation along with a strong sense of being overwhelmed.
When such a relationship breaks down the loss of the dream union and a powerful emotional connection is disillusioning, and enormously devastating. Neptunian love can be dark and destructive and can result in illness, depression and dependency when the relationship dries up. Issues which need to be looked at in such damaging relationships is unconscious martyrdom, manipulation and self-destructive passivity. The cure is usually greater self-sufficiency in partnerships and a powerful need to overcome dependency on a partner.
Neptune within a relationship may leave both feeling deceived and disillusioned. Neptune’s propensity is to fall in love with qualities in the partner that may not actually be there. An over ‘imaginative’ feeling is one of the planet’s foibles as well as an inability to face reality. Although this article has slid into darker territory, there are many Neptune people in love and they find romance is emotionally fulfilling, healing, compassionate and understanding. No two relationships are the same and a lot depends on the level of awareness of both individuals. All partnerships have some level of idealisation and longing, and we all have a composite Neptune. The usual confusion, chaos and unmanageability of Neptune in a relationship are other things to observe with the couple.