One of the most popular statements made about Aquarius refers to their emotional detachment in personal affairs. As one of the fixed signs, the sign forms a grand square to three of the signs we most associate with jealousy and possessiveness: Taurus – physically affectionate, possessive and holds on to what is valuable. Leo – considered a warm-hearted, loyal and generous sign, and one which concerns itself deeply with matters of the heart. Scorpio – passion and strong desires are almost smothering, but they are also loyal like the other fixed signs. It’s not that Scorpio has never been accused of being cold – they are famous for their emotional withdrawal and hot and cold emotions. However, underneath, as we all suspected, they are repressing heavy emotions, and can be incredibly sensitive and need emotional intimacy. Aquarius, on the other hand, wouldn’t be wholly comfortable in the emotional realm and the taxing drama of some of its fixed neighbors. This is because they are ruled by the element of AIR and need more freedom and space to grow as a person.
Air signs value clarity, and would rather not be pulled into the swamp of emotional messes. The ugliness of human emotions represents something they would rather keep at a safe distance. One of the major meanings of Aquarius is that it is orientated towards a huge break with everything we know and understand.
He can be brusque, cool, unfeeling, insensitive, rigid, dogmatic, and downright stupid when it comes to the subtleties of human relationships…His fairness can be blindly infuriating when what is most needed is a little emotional bias. In those typical situations where you’re hurt by someone else’s offhand remark, and turn to your Aquarian for sympathy, and get a pronouncement fit for a trial where point by point the reasonableness of the remark is discussed, it’s a wonder there aren’t more Aquarians murdered every day. Astrology for Lovers
In fact, Aquarius has very deep and multifaceted emotions, but they tend to be repressed. Usually, the emotions are seen as something embarrassing, so don’t expect them to participate in dramatized and emotional scenes. They are deeply uncomfortable by displays of emotion and prefer to draw logical and rational conclusions. Aquarians regard their independence highly, and fear others trying to consume them; they couldn’t stand not being able to breathe in a relationship.
Aquarius will pride themselves on their strong intellectual ability and humanitarian outlook. If the sign is prominent in the chart, they deny such emotions and needs in themselves and others because such needs are deemed selfish. Evolutionary astrology believes that Aquarius’ movement towards detachment is needed in order for the personality to empty themselves of emotion and to dispassionately and objectively understand our need for freedom. In short, to be less ego centered (Leo) and to think about others on the widest level possible.
Air signs are interested on an intellectual level about how everything works – people, computers, and ideologies. Aquarius particularly enjoys anything which enhances consciousness such as psychology, scientific research, political, and social concerns. The typical Aquarian is very interested in people and what makes them tick. All in all, they’re concerned with humanity as a whole. They are probably one of the friendliest signs of the zodiac and need freedom in order to explore their interests.
Friendship is a priority. Aquarius likes a partner who is interesting and shares in their interests. Aquarius’ impartiality and objective reasoning are usually more appreciated at work or in social groups than in personal relationships.The Aquarian sees knowledge as evolving in time to give us a more accurate picture of the world.
Aquarians feel very deeply about others, and would rather a partner have a life of their own. Astrologer Sue Tompkins believes that Aquarius likes people, but not always every separate individual. Since they like to be truthful, they will not pretend to like you if they don’t or pursue relationships which they know they don’t want to pursue.
“You may have the sort of Aquarian who simply refuses to discuss personal feeling. Or he may well tell you you’re being very ‘heavy’ and too emotional. The problem is, he’s often grossly hypocritical about all this. When the tables are turned on him, he’s capable of behaving as much like Othello as any Scorpio is. But he won’t be as honest about it, because he’ll drag in things like honesty and loyalty and concepts about your behaviour without conceding that the real root is his upset feelings, not his principles.” Astrology for Lovers