With this synastry contact, Venus conjunct, sextile, trine, opposition, or square Pluto, the Venus person embodies the qualities of beauty, charm, and grace, which seems to activate a very powerful, intense reaction from Pluto. This creates an intoxicating attraction, and Pluto’s intensity is extremely appealing to Venus, giving this interaction dynamic sexual chemistry. Pluto can make Venus feel deeply loved and valued, making Venus much more aware of inner values, feelings of self-worth, and a strong sense of being attractive. Venus loves Pluto’s intensity; especially if it creates the feeling of being beautiful, desirable, and worthy.
The relationship between Venus and Pluto is sexually driven with plenty of heightened emotions, although Pluto’s reactions could end up scaring Venus. This is because the relationship often starts out very charming, sweet, deeply passionate, and with a simmering heat underneath. Yet all Pluto interactions ignite a striking fascination or uneasy love obsession with all involved. And the Pluto individual is not easily satisfied. It’s all or nothing. Extremes of emotion will surface, and it’s unlikely these two can ever remain “just friends.” When Venus and Pluto connect in the synastry chart, it requires opening up to the partner on all levels, a deepening of the union, and loving deeply enough that they could be destroyed by it. As Kilroy J. Oldster says, “We cannot anticipate in advance how anyone will respond when they first rub elbows with Eros’ malady of passion and madness. In its purest manifestation, romantic love guarantees to rip us asunder, because we are unwittingly dispossessed of our precious sense of self-control.”
The bond between a Venus-Pluto couple possesses a feeling of being destined, well, at least for one partner (Pluto) anyway. Although, if the Venus person doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings, Pluto tends to take it up a notch until the desired response is received. As is commonly the case, Pluto doesn’t take rejection lightly, and refusing his advances only creates resentment; feelings of anger, jealousy, possessiveness, which surface in the relationship and often take over it. While Venus might even enjoy the exclusive attention of Pluto, for the love is intensified and potent; it could also become too intrusive, intense, and invasive. Pluto can have a compulsive attraction to Venus, but sometimes this is a repressive influence, and Venus may feel coerced and intimidated into being loving and affectionate. It may result in increased levels of threats and greater emotional dominance as the relationship progresses further. Breaking the bond is never easy, and the contact is often found in relationships of unrequited love.
Pluto is all about psychological truth and will keep digging and digging until the depth of affection required is received from Venus. This level of intensity can be exhausting for both partners, and Venus’ overly light attitude to the relationship builds up volatile emotions in the Pluto person. In fact, Venus may believe she is all “sweetness” in this interaction. But there is a need to look at her own personal responses and to be conscious of whether or not this seductive quality to Pluto sends him into a jealous rage. Positively, though, the relationship is characterized by heavy affection, consuming love, and a deep attachment that is based on extensive familiarity with each other. Over the course of this interaction, this couple will be transitioning into something much deeper, working through the tangles they will inevitably experience. It will be self-revealing. Venus may lay bare Pluto’s demons and yet can’t help but fall for those depths. Both seek more sensuality because love, quite frankly, is just not enough. Venus and Pluto will get under each other’s skin and the relationship is really only ever truly lived in those moments of passion.
Pluto is about hard psychological truth. It is challenging and confrontative, while Venus is in all things more moderate. The Pluto partner brings a kind of confrontative intensity to bear on the Venus person’s relationship patterns, instincts and history – a quality which the Venus person may not appreciate every minute of the day. Still, this exchange works better than we might expect, and the end result is that the Venus person gradually becomes more savvy, psychologically naked, and honestly communicative, while the Pluto partner learns some necessary lessons about patience, courtesy, timing, forbearance, and humor. If it is not handled in this way, there is the danger that the partners will damage each other in psychologically and spiritually serious ways. Skymates: Love, Sex and Evolutionary Astrology