I’m covering this aspect today. I have a loose conjunction that is out of sign, and I never included it in my chart because of its typical interpretations—like bad temper or a bullying father (which isn’t true in my case). Although my dad passed away from a heart attack when I was a teenager, which is something often associated with this aspect. However, it sits on my 7th house cusp, and my partner does actually have a bit of a quick temper. Maybe I projected all the negative traits onto him. At the same time, I get really excited about starting new projects and can’t wait to dive in. Sometimes, I feel like I don’t fully embody that strong sense of independence I wish I had. But then again, I am self-employed, so I do initiate things and take some risks—I just don’t always fit the stereotype.

I’ve long ignored it, perhaps fearing its more brutish interpretations, yet here it sits on the 7th house cusp. Maybe it is a classic bit of projection—attributing the more combustible qualities to my partner while neatly sidestepping them in myself. We externalize the bits of ourselves we’d rather not claim, only to wrestle with them in the mirror of another’s gaze. I do have some fire, the excitement for new endeavors! Perhaps the ‘bad temper’ isn’t just about anger, but passion, urgency, the initiation. I do embody independence, just not in the caricatured way. I take some carefully planned risks, I create, I carve my own path—but maybe in a way that feels more natural than forceful, more instinctual than aggressive. I just don’t fit the textbook definition of some lone warrior charging ahead, sword raised. Maybe my independence is more intuitive, more fluid, less about brute force and more about trust in my own path.

Astrology isn’t about force-fitting yourself into interpretations; it’s about recognizing the many layers of your own story as they unfold. This aspect may not be as loud as Sun-Saturn, but that doesn’t mean it’s absent. It just waits for the right cue to make itself known. The looser aspects in a chart are there in the background—you might not notice them immediately, but over time, you realize they’ve been shaping the mood of your life all along. The tighter aspects, though, they’re the headliners, the ones that hit you straight away. They define the obvious struggles, the strengths, the patterns you just know are there.

But the wider aspects reveal themselves through experience, through hindsight, through those moments when you suddenly recognize a trait in yourself that you once only saw in others. They don’t always feel active in the way a tight aspect does (for me), but they are there through your story, influencing the way events unfold, the kinds of people you attract, and the dynamics you repeatedly find yourself in.

Sometimes when people are picking on me, I think, “Where are you, Mars? I need you right now!” It’s like when you know you need that extra push, that fire, that assertiveness, and you go, Mars, I could use a bit of that warrior spirit. It’s digging deep to access a part of myself that maybe doesn’t come as naturally but is still very much there. Astrology is brilliant for that—it helps us name and claim the different pieces of ourselves, whether they’re front and center or lingering in the wings, waiting for their cue.

Astrology points out the hidden resources you might not have realized you had. Without it, you might go through life thinking, I’m just not that kind of person, when actually, you’ve got that energy sitting there, waiting to be activated. Maybe it’s not front and center, maybe it’s not as loud as other aspects, but it’s there, embedded into your being, ready to be tapped into when you need it. It’s like finding out you’ve had a secret weapon all along. And once you know it’s there, you can consciously work with it.

That’s the power of astrology—it doesn’t give you qualities you don’t have, but it shows you what’s already inside you, even if you didn’t see it before. It’s like suddenly discovering hidden doors in a house you’ve lived in your whole life. Now that you know they exist, you can open them whenever you like.

Maybe you’ve also had that “Oh wow, I actually do have this energy in me!” moment in astrology?

Sun-Mars: Accidents

This aspect is also said to rule those prone to accidents—now get this:

For some reason, at my old work, they called me Calamity Jane. They thought I was a bit wild on the little truck I had to drive. Looking back, I guess I’ve had my fair share of chaotic moments—like speeding around a corner on my bike as a kid and crashing into a car, falling down a manhole, and even tumbling off a fire engine during a school visit… flashing my knickers to all the firemen in the process. Bridget Jones is basically my cinematic twin. A lovable mix of charm, chaos, and why-does-this-keep-happening-to-me energy.

It’s funny when it happens on screen, but in real life? There’s a split second of horror, a desperate hope that maybe, just maybe, no one saw—followed by the slow, soul-crushing realization that oh, they absolutely did. It’s the kind of thing that leaves a mark—not just in the form of mild PTSD, but also in the eternal cringe I feel every time I remember the incident. I’ve also managed to flood the house, drop a heavy chair down the stairs, set the kitchen half on fire, spin around with flames dangerously close to the curtains, and once chainsawed the wire off the chainsaw because trimming the bushes looked fun. Just a lot of little things, really. I’m starring in my own action movie.

I do feel that life has calmed down a bit since the chainsaw days. The more I go through it, the more I can’t understand why I’ve been so blind to this aspect!

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