With Pluto in the 7th house, you will find that partnerships are the catalysts or agents for personal transformation and change. It is the area of relationships plunging you into deep emotional complexes, testing the depth of your unions, and it often means building and rebuilding contacts with others. Relationships will never stay the same and you’ll encounter people with enormous emotion, passion, and vulnerability. Some people with this placement have helped a partner through a terminal condition, depression, or mental illness. Pluto in the house of marriage involves an incredible passion in a sexual and emotional association with a partner. Pluto here has Wuthering Heights themes; it has all the components of an obsessive, strong, all-consuming entanglement. You are probably interested in why human beings behave the way they do – How could you not be? You’re in the position of opening Pandora’s box on people’s lives. You’re not interested in endless complications of a soap opera – who gives a shit? You keep circling back to the real issues.
The presence of Pluto in the 7th house or ruling it means one will likely have to redefine a marriage or a partnership to make it work. (Some astrologers have observed that you never acquire the needs symbolized by the house in which Pluto resides – for example, Pluto in the 7th seeks the intimacy of a powerful one-on-one relationship that it never attains. I don’t entirely agree with this observation. I think the natal house where Pluto resides requires that you surrender your expectations about the matters of that house before you find peace with it. In some instances, this may mean giving up expectations of what you want before you finally realize the joy of obtaining what you need.) Some people with very strong natal Pluto placements can be addicted to intensity and passion, and become easily disillusioned in a relationship where they don’t have it. Michelle Alder
According to past life astrology, with Pluto in 7th house, you have chosen to balance the control in a relationship during this lifetime by overcoming the same emotionally abusive relationships that controlled them in a previous life. You may feel haunted by all past relationships and resentment, guilt and feelings of persecution at the hands of others needs to be healed. Astrologers say that with this placement of Pluto, “Situations that seem to accompany it can include; separations, domination by partners and spouses, bitter ending of relationships, fighting futilely, vengeful partners, sudden disappearance of important people in their lives. Generally, events with this placement seem to come out of the individual environment, and this can feel scary and evoke deep feelings of insecurity about possible future heavy events also catching them off guard.” You might have to set boundaries and protect yourself from whatever toxicity they ooze.
When Pluto is placed in the 7th house, relationships in the widest sense of the word are the challenge—and the growing place. Pluto makes itself felt in power struggles, in manipulative and dominant relationships, and in dependency and addictive interaction. All the intensity and symbiosis of Pluto can be felt here, or isolation and alienation, depending on the sign and aspects to Pluto. This is the compulsive urge toward relationship, towards symbiosis with another person. The lesson is that, unless one is whole first, no true relationship is possible. For 7th-house Pluto, transformation comes through a relationship that takes one deep inside oneself to meet the denizens of Pluto’s realm, or in a relationship that ends in a plunge into Hades icy grasp. This is the house of karmic relationships, and Pluto’s placement indicates a recurrence of old issues that must be faced and worked through. Manipulation is a common theme, as is that of conditional low, and of emotional control. So often the person with 7th-house Pluto is frightened to let go. Due to past experiences, there is a compulsive need to “pull the strings” in a relationship. The lesson is that of equal partnership. This house is a point where it is possible to become stuck on the karmic wheel, endlessly recreating the same old disasters. It takes courage to step off this wheel into the unknown, but Pluto can aid in this essential transformation. When Pluto works positively in this house, it transforms relationships into a place for soul growth. It signifies a true meeting and sharing of being, of unconditional intimacy. The Hades Moon: Pluto in Aspect to the Moon
Empowering yourself in relationships is the key to understanding your evolutionary development. This may require a complete breakdown and rebuilding of an important union. You can form alliances with powerful people, and they often have a tremendous impact on your future. You can have relationships which bring huge rewards, and this could come through a marriage or a business partnership. A relationship is formed with a partner who you can build an “empire” with, but if you lose that great love some astrologers believe it will be hard to fill that void in this incarnation. With this a placement in your natal chart, however, you most likely will attract someone else and share another incredible relationship. You have a near-obsessive curiosity about people that drives you to understand them better, and you often peg people correctly. Many people with Pluto in the 7th house are here to empower others; they make very good counselors, healers and instruments for change.
Lit Greene says of Pluto in this house that ‘the entry into the underworld comes through somebody else.’ In other words, relationships will plunge them into deep emotional complexes which have lurked in the recesses of the psyche from as far back as early childhood (or even further, if one believes in karma and reincarnation). Through issues connected to partnership, parts of the nature which have been burned, repressed or kept under control by the ego will erupt messily into the everyday life. After the blast, there is the task of putting themselves back together again, hopefully with greater awareness and undemanding of their own complexities. If they are not wholly in touch with their own darker or undifferentiated sides, then they may project these qualities onto the partner. If they have not acknowledged their potential for ruthlessness, treachery’, betrayal, jealousy, envy and possessiveness, they seem to attract or constellate such traits in other people. Again, the nature of life is towards wholeness: if we are not living that wholeness, then the outside brings it to us. Some with this placement sense their own proclivities for destructiveness in the area of relationships and consequently live in fear that others might be capable of the same kind of behaviour. Or they may totally disown their own destructive energy by just attributing it to the other person. Because of a nagging apprehension that sooner or later the other person is going to disrupt the relationship, they have difficulty trusting the partner or feeling safe in a union. Attempting to avert such a catastrophe, they may try to dominate, possess and control the partner. Unfortunately, such behaviour often serves to drive the other person away, thereby bringing about the situation which they most dreaded. Howard Sasportas
The potential for treachery, betrayal, secrecy, abuse and severe trust issues in relationships may threaten to destroy what has been established. With Pluto in the 7th house, you may have difficulty trusting a partner and feeling safe in a union. You’re working on exposing all issues within the relationship and healing them. In a few cases, there may be divorce or the loss of a partner through death, and it can become a single obsession of your life. There can be difficulty in letting go of a lover, and often destiny and someone in your life are so tightly bound, to lose them would feel like a death. Yet, other individuals with this placement end relationships forever, and never look back.
Those with Pluto in the 7th house can create profound relationships, from exciting and synergistic business partnerships to soulmates. Even though the partner is usually a strong-willed person, there is an appreciation of his or her spunkiness and strength, and a willingness to make the relationship a special or even magical one. The two heads, like rams, may butt each other every once in a while, but he relationship definitely won’t suffer from boredom! To others, these people may appear to have nasty fights, but instead it is a healthy way for them to let off steam. Both partners will acknowledge the power and impact they have on each other, and will be willing to commit themselves to work out solutions that don’t hurt the other one or break his or her trust. Evolved Pluto in 7th house types have learned to balance their own desires with the other person’s. They neither consistently demand to have their own way, nor do they give in to the wishes of the partner all the time. They have learned a great deal about life through relationships, and they have a healthy self-image. They are also good psychologists, having come into that subject with an intense curiosity about what was happening in their own life and relationships. These Plutonians make many conscious choices during the day, without needing the advice of others. And they can keep up their positive energy, because they are confident in their public image. Ginger Chalford