The 4th house of the astrological chart represents the nurturing and safe haven aspects of life. The desire to be shielded by the oneness of life that Neptune represents is especially strong in this place. It is a yearning to be held in the safe embrace of childhood, and if trines to Neptune are present in the 4th house, there will often be an overly comfortable feeling of emotional well-being. Most of the time, Neptune’s challenging aspects indicate a chronic dissatisfaction at home, and possibly a sense that things don’t live up to expectations to your ideal picture of home and family. When Neptune occupies the 4th house of a horoscope, it reveals your innermost thoughts and feelings are super sensitive. Therefore, the early roots may not always give a firm basis for your life when Neptune’s hazy mist envelops the inner realm. Because of Neptune’s influence, your home may be a disorganised and disorderly place. This means that creating the peaceful ocean in your personal life that you want might be challenging. It’s not uncommon if you have this placement to have had a vague view your parents during the early stages of life. Sometimes you have deep, fuzzy memories of your father, or you had a misty upbringing for reasons that only become clear to you as an adult. “An Astrology Book for Beginners” says the following:
With Neptune in the 4th house, there will be strong unconscious emotional ties to the home and family that are karmic in nature. People with Neptune in the 4th House often live near water and have strong feelings for the land and nature. Family secrets and mysteries surrounding aspects of home life are common. These people have a deep desire to mother the world and often bring strays and strangers into their homes. An afflicted Neptune can cause confused family relationships and a chaotic domestic environment. Neurosis from difficulties with parents and other family members can arise, and emotionally based nervous disorders that are difficult to diagnose may develop later in life.With Neptune in the 4th house, you will look for the perfect home that you either had or wish you had had. You put a lot of value on things like finding inner peace and feeling safe, calm, and like they belong in your life. When Neptune is in this position, it shows that you are very vulnerable at your core, and there is an inner fragility. Even though this might not be as obvious in “tougher horoscopes,” it is still there. Most of the time, the placement of this planet in this personal sphere means that you are looking for a deeper emotional connection because you may have lost something important to you. It’s possible that your father isn’t there because he moved away, got divorced, or died. Neptune’s placement in a parental house symbolises a sense of avoidance and inaccessibility on the part of a parent. The atmosphere around him may be heavy with sadness, and he may be unreachable both emotionally and/or physically. A father figure is often idealised subconsciously, even when your relationship with him has deteriorated. The father may be a Neptunian in a number of ways: he may be artistic, for example, or he may have dreams that were never realised. A second possibility is that he was interpreted as being too weak or unsatisfactory in some way. You may associate your father’s softness and ethereal qualities with your own sense of security, well-being, and inner sense of self. The Plain Vanilla Astrologer says that if Neptune is in this position, it could sometimes mean that there is a big family secret or that a parent had a terrible illness or disability. Most of the time, alcoholism or even mental illness runs in the family and can be passed down from one parent to another. There are times when it’s just not clear what’s going on. If a parent is stuck in Neptune’s bad habits, they may be sick or addicted to drugs or alcohol. Because of this, it is hard to feel cared for properly if a parent is shown by Neptune. Neptune has a strong effect on the parent, and the archetype of the victim/savior often shows up in a way that is meaningful to the parent. When you were younger, you might have wished you could make your parents feel better. Your father may have had to stop working sooner than planned because of his poor health. No matter what happens, the early years are surrounded by a sea of despair, disappointment, or deep discontentment, and these feelings may even follow you into later life along with a big storm. In the end, Neptune in this way represents the search for a spiritual home and the hope of finding the perfect place to relax, far from the responsibilities of life. It is important when Neptune is in this part of your chart to keep an eye out for water damage, ensure that your home’s foundation is secure, and repair any leaks that may appear when watery Neptune is in your physical home. With Neptune here you may have to give up and sacrifice a house itself if things become bad enough. Neptune’s shaky borders include, among other things, the potential for deceit from a someone close to you, a relative or friend. Anyone in this position is more likely to be naive and allow others to remain at their place out of pity or compassion, so be on the lookout for anyone who might try to take advantage of your kindness. Some people, especially those with health or substance abuse problems, may misinterpret your compassion and understanding as weakness and take advantage of you as a result. When someone is invading your personal space, you may feel compelled to give up a great deal of your independence in order to keep them happy. When Neptune is in the 4th house of a birth chart, strange, mysterious, or even surreal things can happen at home, which ties into the concept of boundaries blurring. Instances of seeing ghosts or communicating with the dead, as well as a general feeling of unease. Home can be where the heart is, and when that heart is devoted wholly to artistic pursuits, musical expression, and inspiring ideas, heaven can be found there. It’s possible to accomplish all of this without ever having to leave the comfort of their home. Being in such a setting can make you want to spend more time indoors than out. Most people use Neptune here as their primary means of evading reality. Neptune’s true purpose in this area of life is to help you feel spiritually protected on the inside so you may open yourself up to the light. Insight into your own inner peace can have a profoundly positive effect on your home life. Your home is a great indicator of the peace and beauty (or chaos) that you find inside yourself. According to The Instant Astrologer,
For you, such sensitivity and yearning for some ideal focuses upon your home life and family background. It is most likely that you experience this as remembering things in the past as being idyllic. The streets or fields of your childhood have a rosy veil cast across them. Indeed, such childhood dreams are true, even if only because of the way you perceived life in those innocent times. Actually, this is the whole sentiment underlying Neptune here: that life is as sweet and as secure as you make it. The negative value here is of course one of glossing over the less pleasant and harsh experiences of early life. This has the effect of making you feel rather rootless, because through denying past pain you are still denying a part of yourself. So, you have to go into that pain and re-emerge, cleansed with a far clearer sense of ‘Paradise Lost’; this in turn enables you to go about regaining your ‘Paradise’, thereby imbuing your home with a hauntingly familiar quality. This is very important to you and creates a haven for others too. It also has something to do with your psychic sensitivity to the Earth and Nature’s forces. Without doing this ‘regaining’, as with the weeds at the bottom of the pond, you can be trapped in the past, or in the self-contained nature of your family and particularly the relationship with your father, who may have been a vague, weak or unavailable figure. Positively, though, he could be a great example of selflessness and compassion. With regard to finding a home itself, this is often in the lap of the gods in that some power outside yourself grants or takes away special abodes. Living by the sea is especially desirable and beneficial to you.