With this synastry contact, the Venus person embodies the qualities of grace, charm and beauty which always activates a very powerful and intense reaction from the Plutonian. In many relationships, Pluto’s intensity is often attractive to Venus, and creates powerful sexual chemistry between a couple, even with the difficult aspects. And while Pluto can make Venus feel deeply loved and valued, it can also be too intrusive, and Pluto’s intensity could be disturbing. Yet, the Pluto person can make the Venus person much more aware of their inner values and feelings of self-worth. When Venus and Pluto connect in the synastry chart, it signifies the necessity of opening up psychologically to the partner and the requirement to deepen the union for better or worse.
Venus might even enjoy the exclusive attention of Pluto, for the love is intensified and potent. The bond has a feeling of being destined, well, at least for one partner. But if the Venus person doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings towards their Plutonian partner, Pluto tends to take it up a notch until the desired response is received. Let’s face it, Pluto doesn’t take rejection lightly and refusing his/her advances only creates further resentment; feelings of anger, jealousy, possessiveness, which surface in the relationship and will take over it. With all Pluto contacts in synastry, there will always be a struggle for dominance and control. Pluto destroys whatever challenges its survival, so any threats to the bond are removed.
Pluto can have a compulsive attraction to Venus, but sometimes this is a repressive influence and the Venusian may feel coerced and intimidated into being loving and affectionate. It may result in increased levels of threats and greater emotional dominance as the relationship progresses further. Pluto is all about psychological truth and will keep digging and digging until the depth of affection required is received from Venus. This level of intensity can be exhausting for both partners, but it is made worst when Pluto uses his/her ability to penetrate and degrade the love nature of Venus. The unconscious manipulative manner of the Pluto person often destroys Venus’ affections.
At times, Venus’ over-superficial attitude to the relationship builds up resentment in the Pluto person. In fact, the Venus person may believe he/she is all “sweetness and light” in this interaction, but there is a need to look at personal responses and to be conscious of whether or not Venus’ seductiveness of Pluto sends him/her into a jealous rage. Venus loves some of the intensity; especially if it creates the feeling of being more beautiful, valued and loved. For some, it makes the relationship more exciting, desirable and sexually driven. However, Pluto’s reactions could end up scaring Venus. The relationship often starts out very charming, sweet and passionate, but there is always a simmering heat underneath this interaction. Pluto interactions can ignite a striking fascination or uneasy love obsession. The Pluto individual is not easily satisfied and it’s all or nothing. Breaking the bond is never easy, extremes of emotion will surface, and it’s unlikely these two can ever remain “just friends.” The contact is often found in relationships of unrequited love, and one that it is very much one-sided.
There may be an easy interaspect here, but it is helpful to remember that these two planets aren’t naturally very friendly toward each other. Pluto is about hard psychological truth. It is challenging and confrontative, while Venus is in all things more moderate. The Pluto partner brings a kind of confrontative intensity to bear on the Venus person’s relationship patterns, instincts and history – a quality which the Venus person may not appreciate every minute of the day. Still, this exchange works better than we might expect, and the end result is that the Venus person gradually becomes more savvy, psychologically naked, and honestly communicative, while the Pluto partner learns some necessary lessons about patience, courtesy, timing, forbearance, and humor. If it is not handled in this way, there is the danger that the partners will damage each other in psychologically and spiritually serious ways. Skymates: Love, Sex and Evolutionary Astrology