Question: Are people with these aspects possessive, or want to be in control, and can it bring the dark aspects of a personality out when in a relationship?
Under Venus opposite Pluto in aspect, there are a lot of undercurrents to a partnership, and love dredges up all that is unloved. Things really tend to heat up in this area and it can sometimes turn crazy.
Pluto often acts as a therapist in their love-life, dredging all kinds of issues up, many which feel highly uncomfortable. Venus opposite Pluto’s infatuations reaches peak really quickly, from a simple text, sent one minute, to the confession of undying love the next. From zero to maximum overdrive. Also, Pluto is incredibly buried in the psyche and unless there is some consciousness, it can act out in compulsive ways. The individual can feel compelled. drawn to painful situations, and it can produce affairs outside of the relationship, along with some burning attractions.
On the darker edge, there is a controlling, manipulative, or a disturbing partnership. A partner may embody these qualities, and some women complain with Venus opposite Pluto, that men are always getting possessive with them. The feelings of love and attachment, run very deep. When it comes to attracting a partner the individual is magnetic, and they tend to arouse powerful emotions in others. In love, they can be quite jealous and possibly obsessive. At the root of consuming feelings are deep fears of rejection, loss, and betrayal. It can bring up earlier feelings for the individual of love and loss, agonizing emotions arise, even if the slightest feeling of being rejected is felt. It can lead to smothering, intoxicating and dangerous liaisons.
Many Venus-Pluto people experience the cliché ‘fatal attraction’ and it probably sounds overblown, but we all the know the movie. A simple love affair goes BEYOND NORMAL and someone goes to extremes in love, unable let go and loses all rationale. The star actress, Glenn Close, in her most famous role, possesses Venus opposite Pluto aspect on the birth chart. On paper, this sounds like the most unbearable aspect to possess, ruining relationships, and bringing something to threaten the bond. Rejection for these people is a big issue, it seems to drag up painful feelings and the individual stalks and terrorizes a partner. We all have all read fatal attraction stories in the newspaper when a man or woman becomes involved with the wrong person and it may only be a brief encounter, but the repercussions are deadly. A fatal attraction is simply defined as an attraction that can and sometimes does lead to death. Think ‘moth to candle flame’ when visualizing Venus-Pluto contacts.
Venus-Pluto may show a slight interest in someone, and they end up in these psych-sexual attractions. No astrologer can judge the extremity, and sometimes a Venus-Pluto individual doesn’t feel the impact of the aspect until they break up with someone. Then, this tremendous force of emotions comes their way in the form of obsessive love, hatred, and revenge, all sorts of nasty feelings. For some, Venus opposite Pluto will enjoy having a partner with some depth, some edge, and emotional profundity, and it is highly attractive. Venus opposite Pluto in love can overwhelm with an intensity of emotion, and the other has to be constantly available. Such love can be cute at the beginning, but those feelings are never satisfied and little things in the relationship show signs of more demands, threats, and dominance.
Pluto gets fixated on somebody, and it’s all scary and toxic stuff on this end. Definition of Fatal attraction:
An attraction between an individual and someone-something that is so strong the individual lacks reason and logic in their thinking when dealing with their attraction.
Many Venus-Pluto types/partners can be incredibly charming, emotionally manipulative, and take things too much to heart. The lightest brush off is interpreted as another rejection or loss. Things always start off rosy with plenty of intense loving, especially in the beginning, and it can be incredibly seductive. The partner can feel loved like never before, and there is an intoxicating power, like falling under a dark spell.
Venus opposite Pluto themes can show peace and stability for years, the whole happy life. However, in some cases, something intrudes upon this happiness, and it results in a massive emotional confrontation with all sorts of painful stuff accumulated pouring forth. A deep feeling of unlovability and any unmet needs in love can result in outsized expressions of emotions and sexuality. It can lead to feeling deeply flattered to really scared. Eventually, the real aim is to develop greater self-value, deeper intimacy without the compulsiveness, and authentic relating.
As a final note, not all people feel Venus-Pluto to these kinds of extremes. On a more positive level, there are bags of passion that can be poured into all sorts of creative activities. There is passionate love and passionate hate.